Friday, January 23, 2009

My Sister...


My sister went into the hospital about five days ago with headaches and died yesterday.
Her cancer had moved into her brain.
She was surrounded by her friends and slipped away quietly. One of her last concerns was to not "upset Mom too much".
That great wall of death had been moved up on her unexpectedly.
She wanted to outlive her dogs so they always had her to take care of them.
These are pictures from her 50th birthday.
She somehow managed to get her friends to all dress like children, calling this a 5th birthday do-over. Her 5th birthday was marred by chickenpox or something, and she wasn't allowed to attend her own party.
She was only allowed to watch it through the glass.
Sandy had a pretty good score card of things she wanted to do all checked off. Her last trip to Kauai she took a flight on an ultra-light.
She had sky-dived, scuba-dived, cliff jumped and scratched the ears of a thousand dogs.
She loved the color purple and I miss her already.
Good bye Sandy.

18 comments:

fairyhedgehog said...

I am so sorry.

Jeannie said...

They should come up with a better word than sorry but I am. Someone with her spirit deserved to live a lot longer - but at least she lived while she was alive.

What's going to happen to her dogs?

Anonymous said...

Terribly sorry to hear that, Scott. My condolences.

Anonymous said...

Oh, Scott. I am so sorry.

Sweeti said...

Sorry wrapped in a (((Big Hug)))

meno said...

I am sorry Scott. Those pictures you posted really show her sense of humor.

Anne said...

I've followed your blog for awhile, so I've read some very nice posts about your sister. She sounds like a special one, and I am so sorry to hear that she lost her brave battle.

Jean said...

So very sorry, Scott.

Wishing comfort to you, your Mom and all who loved her.

Cheesy said...

My darling friend- My eyes are filled with tears as I write this. I am so sad that Sandy was unable to be relieved of this disease. Your tribute to her through these fun shots was so sweet. I have envisioned heaven as anything from a cotton candy cloud world with gardens and flowing streams to reincarnation as a daisy in a field somewhere. Of course none of us knows what we go to - but I remain fast in my belief that dogs do go to heaven so Sandy will never be alone. I will continue to cherish my Dog Poop Calender she sent to me!
My heart aches for you and your family. May you and Mum find peace with time.

kario said...

May memories like these pepper your days so that she always brings you a smile. Something tells me that was the greatest gift you two were able to give to each other.

Sending love to you and your mother.

Anonymous said...

I really wish there was another word to replace sorry, but I'm afraid that's all any of us can say. I always enjoyed hearing about her because the words you would write were filled with love. I'm certain that your love and devotion helped her during her very brave battle. I think one of the greatest gifts you gave her was shaving your own head when she had to lose her hair to chemo.

I know that the wonderful memories will help you and your Mom get through this terrible time. This will be especailly hard for her. Our kids are not supposed to die before we do. Just know that you have a lot of love being sent your way.

My condolences.

writtenwyrdd said...

Scott, I'm so sorry! My deepest condolences and good thoughts for you and your family. Hard, hard stuff to deal with...

Schmoopie said...

Love to you from us.

Nikky said...

I am so sorry Scott, my thoughts go out to you, your mom, and all of Sandy's dog friends.

JamieSmitten said...

I'm so sorry, Scott. There is never enough time with the special ones. I hope you and your mum are comforted by the many happy memories.

Jonas said...

Please accept my heartfelt sympathy for you and your family.

Anonymous said...

There is not a single thing I can say that will make you feel better.

You're in my thoughts, Scotty and I'd give you a really big hug if I could. xxx

Anonymous said...

I wish I had words that would make things better ... but I don't. Just know that I'm thinking of you and your family during this time.